Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Why the Pro-Choice Side Is So Angry

I regularly debate pro-life issues with family, friends, and people I meet on the internet.  Invariably there is a common thread among those who call themselves pro-choice.  They are inevitably anger, bitter, and defensive.  They are quick to attack, to call names, and to disregard even the most reasoned arguments. They deny the humanity of the unborn, no matter how much evidence is stacked against them.  They insist that they aren't hurting because of what they've done, that what they did was necessary or that they didn't have a choice, or that they shouldn't have to justify their choice. The reason for it all is pretty simple, actually: they know what they are doing is wrong.

Human beings have a built-in need to believe that we are good and to believe that we are lovable.  Anything we do that causes harm to another human being calls this belief in our goodness into question. Since we know that goodness is an essential quality of being lovable, it leaves us seeking some way to repair the damage, to rectify the situation. Faced with the fact that we are not the good people that we need to believe that we are, the human mind is left with only a handful of options: admit what we've done, seek forgiveness, and attempt to set things right with the other party; deny that the other party was actually harmed; blame someone else for the damage we've caused; or go crazy.  In the case of abortion, there is no way you can ever set things right with that other person.  The harm you have done is irreversible, and the pro-choice side knows this.

This is the reason why suicide rates increase the year after an abortion - the women know that there is nothing they can do to make right what they have done, they fall into despair, and they kill themselves to try and escape the anguish.  The ones who survive abortion then either deny that the child was human at all, and thus assure themselves they aren't actually guilty of murder, or they blame the doctors for not telling them the truth about what they were doing so that they can escape feeling responsible for the decision they made.

Denial only works, though, as long as there is nobody to confront you with the truth.  As long as you don't have to look at the evidence that tells you what you've done really was that bad, you can go on about your life.  Encounter even one person who tells you the truth, though, and you become angry and resentful.  They are telling you that you're a bad person, confronting you with the evil that you've done and you can't handle it. The lies you've so carefully constructed to cover your guilt are coming apart, and now you are being exposed.  The anger and defensiveness that arise are like quills on a porcupine, designed to protect the very vulnerable and wounded individual from the harm the truth is causing them.

I mentioned that there were only a handful of options for resolving such a mental crisis.  The last and final, and best solution of all, is to allow your sin to be brought to Jesus Christ.  You cannot repair the damage you have done, but He can.  You cannot restore life to your dead child, but He can. You cannot transform your evil act into something good, but He can.  If you've been through an abortion, it's not too late to change.  If you've assisted someone with an abortion, you can find forgiveness and healing.  As long as there is breath and life, there is still hope for you.  Repent, be forgiven, and know the peace that comes from encountering the mercy and love of Jesus Christ.

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